Seeing red

There is a red set of bra and panties that I can no longer wear. They came out of the laundry yesterday, and they are clean, but they still cannot be worn. When I see them, I see red…or I don’t see.

The bra was chosen for me by my first Dom. I needed a new bra, and I sent him pictures from dressing rooms until he chose. For a long time when our dynamic was strong, I felt clothed in his care when I wore it. There was a long time toward the end of our practice that I didn’t wear the red as it wasn’t our default color choice. He used to designate the color of my bra and panties each day, and if he forgot, I was to wear default black. There was a long time toward the end of our practice in which I wore only black until the default ran out in my mind. He had forgotten me, and so I allowed myself to forget him also.

It is hard to forsake a bra that fits well, even when chosen by a Dom that lost his title and my submission. I wore it without association, and it often peaked out of otherwise conservative clothing. There was an edge of lace, the cup shape was round, and the straps were thick. The exhibitionist in me took pictures in just that bra in my car.

The red panties are lacy, and I have taken many a picture of kitchen ass sent to my love while making coffee. They are full coverage, pretty, and my ass hangs out the bottom. He always commented on the red ones.

There was a day of bad decisions, ultimately filled with catastrophic consequences still being managed…I wore red top and bottom. There is no wearing those again. Never. I lost time wearing those reds, I missed details, I destroyed trust, and I endangered my most treasured connection. Seeing that red isn’t a trauma from which I will easily recover. Neither he nor we may ever recover fully.

I see red for all of my traumas. I see connections to the language of my dependence on my spouse and the abuses he has perpetrated on my fragility. I can name the feeling I have when suicidal ideations fall from the mouths of those I love – having lost my share of treasures to suicide, that button is hot and very red. There have been many times I have felt trapped in my own body when it is a mystery to the modern medical profession. I have had so many surgeries, and I have felt so much pain and uncertainty. I am covered in infectious black ink turned blood red as this virus Covid threatens me from every angle. I watch my husband turn mean as he struggles to understand what has happened, and I have no fight left in me. Will burning these two, small, insignificant articles of clothing make the world settle? Will it wipe some of the red from my vision?

Probably not.

I burn them anyway.

____________

My red blinds and infuriates

My head struggles and debilitates

My heart pounds and won’t recuperate

My body writhes and pulsates

My breath increases and hyperventilates

My panic

My red

Oh, my…

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