I am totally finding my way in the dark on this, but a thought occurred to me that maybe I am programmed to be polyamorous. I met a few open poly folks out in the wild, and it shook my perception of what was possible. I had always been attracted to a wide variety of people, but avoided any such people as a threat to my traditional monogamous construct. This meant that I avoided anyone I found to be remotely intelligent, challenging, talented, or interesting. Incidentally, this is also a fine way to accept being mediocre myself. No need to improve or grow or learn when nobody needs me to be more.
Today is the start of several posts for my learning about poly as it pertains to me and my partners outside of my marriage. Here are the topics most pertinent”
- Thrive, accept or tolerate
- Communication, communication and MORE communication (with strong doses of awareness of self and others)
- “Don’t ask, don’t tell”
- Room for changing and growth