After I asked my husband for an open marriage and after running from the pain of that request, I was lost. Is it important enough to revisit the discussion? What do I want? Am I capable of loving and being good to more people? Do I have the skills needed to be clear with my potential partners?
I started an online profile on a dating site for attached folks seeking discrete relationships. It began as a thought experiment to see if I was capable of being clear about my desires, what I seek in partners, and if there were actually others out there whose desires were in line with mine. The answer is YES! But not in round 1. There was learning to do!
My first round of interested folks came to me. They sent messages and I responded. I learned a lot:
- Profile writing – almost nobody reads what is written, most look at age/height/weight/picture, maybe even a few just see gender and don’t care past pussy
- Numbers game – there are WAY more men than women on sights for discreet affairs, and most female profiles are bots or scams for money
- Unknown intent – very few people know what they actually are seeking and not everyone who responds is actually prepared to have an affair
- Dick pics – they are an odd method of saying “hi”